We are celebrating a new kind of sexual revolution. Porn is becoming less taboo, sex is an app-swipe away, and stigmas are fading as the need to lie about who we are - while still challenging - has become less so. We face new challenges as we embrace our newfound openness, like the need to tribalize (and even fetishize) sex, race and masculinity) as we sign in, upload, and check off the buttons of preference on our way to pre-negotiated sex. That is why I have asked some of the boys and men I kn...